Article : You Gotta Go Through by Deborah Brown-Volkman
You Gotta Go Through
Deborah Brown-Volkman

You Gotta Go Through

Are you facing a situation in your career that you thought you’d never face? Working in a job that you are overqualified for? Reporting to a boss that doesn’t get or like you? Unemployed after years of hard work? Interviewing endlessly when in the past jobs came to you?

Do you feel like you have done all the right things, worked hard and given it your all, but now the right things are not happening for you?

Your career spans 30, 40, 50 or more years, so sooner or later, you will face a tough situation in your career. Some difficulties in your career are easier to tackle. A fight with a co-worker can end with a discussion to resolve it. Having to travel to another country on a moment’s notice can work if your spouse can jump in and help. But what happens when you are faced with something that you have no experience fixing?

You Go Through. How? Follow These Four Steps Below.

1. Don’t Run Or Hide

Wouldn’t it be easier if difficulties went away on their own? Yes, but it’s not probably going to happen that way. When things are tough, you have to get tough too. It’s ok if you want to take some time to regroup and assess your situation, but don’t expect your problems to have disappeared while you were regrouping. The longer you run or hide from your problems, the longer they will hang around, and the bigger they will become. No one wants problems, but sometimes you have them. Trust that you can handle whatever has been put in front of you. Trust that you will find a way to overcome your situation. Trust that you have the knowledge and the strength to be successful. Your pathway to the other side will appear once you plow ahead.

2. Be Open To Different Possibilities

Sometimes we have a picture in our mind of what should happen, and while we focus on that, we miss out on what’s supposed to happen. Believe you should not have been fired? Maybe you are right, but that doesn’t matter because you are still out of work. What can you do now to get back on your feet? Not happy about being underutilized at work? How can you prove yourself again? Frustrated that your contacts can’t help you find a new position? Who can become your new friends?

When difficulties occur, we want to go back to the way things were. But that way, many times, no longer exists. Create the next phase of your career. Be open to the possibilities that lie ahead, whatever they may be.

3. Ask For Help

Why we do dislike asking for help so much? Are we worried that we will look weak? Are we concerned that we might be a pest? Are we afraid of hearing the word ‘no’? Probably, all of the above. We are a society of lone rangers that prefers to tackle problems on our own. The trouble is that solving problems takes longer when you are trying to solve them alone. There are times in your career when you will need assistance.
That’s ok. Maybe another perspective or insight is what you need to get you moving in a new direction.
Asking for help is a sign of strength because you are recognizing that help from others will help you get where you want to go faster.

4. Expect To Succeed

Your expectations play a big role in how quickly you are able to work through your difficulties. Solutions are found once you expect to find one. If you expect that you will find an answer, you will. Success is yours if you go through your problems rather than around them. Your reward for being optimistic and persistent is your problems will disappear, and this means your old confident self can come back. Expect victory and you will get it.

So, what do you say? You only have one life to live, so it might as well be a life you love!


Deborah Brown-Volkman is the president of Surpass Your Dreams, Inc., a career- and mentor-coaching company that has been delivering a message of motivation, success and personal fulfillment since 1998. The company works with senior executives, vice presidents and managers who are out of work or overworked. Deborah is also the creator of the Career Escape Program and author of Coach Yourself To A New Career: A Book To Discover Your Ultimate Profession. Deborah Brown-Volkman can be reached at via email at or at (631) 874-2877.


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